Wierd topic? But i need advise

Posted by: @sunleo18

I was born with foreskin that doesn't retract while I am aroused. Though foreskin makes masturbation easy but I have never experienced a real penetration in my life. I want to experience one. 

I was thinking of surgery to remove the foreskin? Would it be worth it? I wonder ? 

That's a difficult one to answer definitively although I truly do know the basic issue you are having. I'll just say I had a girlfried when I was around 20/21 who how can I say it,got very carried away when manually pleasing me,so much so she tore my frenelum.

Of course that would have been bad enough but being,like I said 20 or 21 we went on and had sex which in hindsight was a very,very stupid thing to do.The foreskin and the damaged area came out swollen like a tennis ball and when the swelling went down maybe 24/48 hours later it had half heeled in a way I found the foreskin couldn't stretch wider than a biro at the opening meaning even really soft it was hard to withdraw. When it was possible the act of pulling it back usually caused that tiniest bit of life which was enough that it would be behind the glans and strangle the whole damn thing,painfully so.

It was that much of a problem I basically had to use cotton buds fed in the end to clean my head and if I wasn't very careful when going to the toilet and lined up my slit with the tiny opening I had left it could end up spraying everywhere. Believe me I soaked a few folks bathroom walls unintentionally.

I put up with it for about 3 or 4 years. Actually having sex etc wasn't that big an issue,there was no possibility of penetration causing the skin to pull back painfully and the you usually penetrate an area very well lubricated let's say so it's mechanically not a problem but there is no doubt whatsoever it seriously limits the sensations and the feelings in the worst possible way.

There's also the rather unexpected side effect of because you are moving inside a wet and lubricated passage a great deal of those mixed seminal and vaginal fluids are pushed under the foreskin and around that whole area which can become very stale amazingly quickly in a way that just wouldn't be an issue otherwise.

I did finally solve the situation but in a very drastic but drawn out manner.I cannot remember what I used but as I was saying 2 or a max 3 cotton wool buds (that's the kind you're absolutely not meant to use to clean out earwax but everyone does ??) was all I could fit down the opening at any and all times

My level of arousal or not didn't make the slightest difference BUT I was absolutely loathe to get circumcised if it came to it so I became of incredibly frustrated,to the point where either I was going to stretch the opening back to a workable size or wreck my foreskin in the process.If that happened then off to the docs and get circumcised as a last resort. Kind of last chance do or die.

The thing is this was over 20 maybe even 25 years ago now and I cannot remember what I actually used but I got two thin but strong screwdrivers and fed both down the opening then pulling them apart carefully but not gently kept trying to stretch the opening by brute force.

This went on for ages because there was no real elasticity there to allow for stretching so often it was a matter of going at it until it was too painful.

I remember pretty much that whole time the opening was sore or hurt because of what I was doing,I could even see flecks of blood under the skin of my foreskin but almost straight away there was a slight improvement and that's why I kept at it.

Once,it did start to widen every so slightly the improvement seemed to get better more in less time until and believe it or not it was while having sex one time when I'd managed to make a noticeable difference that my skin first pulled back while fully enflamed.

With a typical dose of irony I'd become so used to it being sheathed that when it did come back and my glans got the first full on sensation in about 4 years I was finished before I began if you know what I mean.I didn't care I was just that delighted it had finally happened.In fact,I quickly shot off to.thw bathroom to check if this was a one off or whether I had actually had a foreskin that could withdraw.

Now,I.know you didn't post the question to read all about my past problem with my own.foreskin but I laid out the what happened so you can see I do know in some sense where your at. In my case,it was down to mmm,well misadventure where as you say you've always had this situation.

Do you know why it's the way it is,I mean in my case that frenelum,that elastic piece of skin that attaches the base of the glans to the foreskin was torn and when it healed it seems to have heeled the foreskin direct under the head with no capacity to stretch whatsoever.

Is it something similar in your case or completely different ??

What I would say to you and from the viewpoint of someone who has had this problem while it doesn't hamper masturbation to any great degree at all and as I said sex is phyaically/mechanically no great issue beyond cleansing etc but the significant amount of sensation you lose out on even though you'll still feel the motion of the foreskin moving against the glans much like with masturbation just the sensation,pleasure and the knowledge you're never fully feeling your partner but always covered up is really something massive to miss out on.

I don't advise doing anything like what I did,fortunately it came out for the best but it could so easily have ended up with a nasty,permanent injury. Besides,I wasn't born with that situation so I don't know whether it would work in your case anyway,not without knowing why it is you have the problem you have. I assume ultimately like in my case the.opening won't open enough to allow it to pull back but maybe not,I don't know.

The other obvious solution would be to get circumcised I image or some kind of surgical intervention and actually that's probably the best solution because at least a doctor or surgeon will not only know the best course of action,who better than someone properly experienced and qualified to take surgical tools to your tool,pun intended.

I would say ultimately you are far better having it removed than having a full sex life with a foreskin that won't withdraw. That's in my opinion at least but apparently there are guys out there who have the same issue and live with ok but without being unfair that's because they probably don't fully understand what it is they are missing out on and unable to experience. It's hard to miss something you've never had experience of.

That is another reason for my giving you my long winded experience at the start of this post because I had experience of being physical in working order prior to my 'incident'.

Then the entire time I had the issue I was actually very active sexually so know exactly how it feels to enjoy sex both without any problems then with a solidly stuck foreskin and then how it is subsequently. I.neglected to add it's never fully returned to it's initial free and easily manipulateable way it used to be. It does retract and I can pull it back over while at the most engorged state it possibly can be but it's tight now and always will be,also too much over enthusiastic use whether with another or when by myself will usually result in a degree of soreness and pain in the sight of the original injury.

Anyway,again to reiterate in my opinion and it is only my opinion in the end but if it comes down to choosing whether it's better to just live with it or seek a medical or even surgical solution to the issue then 100% seek a solution,don't put up with it as you are not doing yourself any favours whatsoever.

Yes as you say masturbation isn't a problem but that is not the same thing as sex or making love to a partner ,not even close so don't allow that fact much weight in your decision. Not when you weigh it against the true pleasure you will get from youe partner or future partner. It's not just your own enjoyment but hers too not to mention your seriously reduced sensation and it is seriously reduced robs you of the full enjoyment which could reduce your willingingness over time to enjoy her.It's a mutual thing and if you are denied full enjoyment it'll have an effect over time.

I've heard some guy online suggesting that having thia same problem and reduced feeling increases his ability to last during sex but that is a totally back to front way of thinking.I mention that just incase thiar thoughts have gone through your mind.

So,if you've been patient enough to read all the way to this point then thank you for that and I appologise for the full essay rather than the typical 140 odd character response everyone expects these days but I did want to lay it out step by step i.e why I feel I can speak on the subject from a particular perspective at least then hopefully make the point probably a good few times now that a solution is truly what you should try to find,please don't just leave it through embarrassment to seek medical advice or fear of them not doing it right.

Doing nothing while the easiest path to follow is by far the least satisfactory both for you but genuinely for your future partner aswell.

If being circumcised turns out to be the only way,rather than the idiotic back yard fix I pursued then that's what you need to do. I guarantee you now without any hesitation at all you will thank yourself a thousand times over your life that you got it done.

I wish you all the best either way but seriously get it done ??

Well that's a looonnng reply ?.  But I read it. With a break. Thankyou so much.  I will ponder on this. Considering so many people are enjoying penetration with dolls I am so much tempted.

My problem is Steadfast and persistent from birth. Skin doesn't retract even in flacid state. 

And for you, please try to make shorter sentences with proper punctuations. Then length of the text won't matter. 

I think you should the doctor. My foreskin was also retracted after age of around 16 or 17. Actually i saw it in a porn then i slowly retracted it very carefully over a long time.  It hurted very much and there was redness for some days.

Posted by: @sunleo18

My problem is Steadfast and persistent from birth. Skin doesn't retract even in flacid state. 

And for you, please try to make shorter sentences with proper punctuations. Then length of the text won't matter. 

Oh man,does it help if I say I got an A in A level English and had to continue with it as a subject at Univerity.

Even though I was doing an engineering degree lol.

It goes to show just how text measages and the internet erodes your wtiting skills and grammar.

??

Then I must be simplistic and impatient. ??

I am sorry. I come out impertinent and rude sometimes.