Your dick size??

How big is yours?

I never measures but I can guess 7 to 8 inches

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Posted by: @electrostar

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It's a joke. Cock rating was a meme a few years ago.

Okk

6 and half

Mine's a hair's breadth over 8 inches at full attention. Oddly enough I wasn't keen to measure it for a long, long time as I figured I'd be about average if very lucky but probably below average knowing my luck.

It wasn't until a gfs best friend started teasing me about what my gf had been saying about me and then relayed that she told everyone I had a big dick that I felt confident enough to get the measuring tape out.

Later on I read from numerous sources that the avg white adult was 6 inches while the avg black male was 6.2 inches.

Whenever I've heard what current or ex gfs have been saying I'm always happy to hear that they compliment me enthusiastically about the size and shape of it but more than anything it's the positive things they say about my abilities with it that really make me smile.

In saying that there have been a few remarks along the lines of he has a big dick but not the biggest balls I've ever come across......so I suppose you can't have it all lol.

Also from the very first time I had sex at 15 going on 16 right up till age 20 I badly struggled to last more than a few minutes before blowing my lot.At that time the comments that came back my way not to mention were made in front of everyone once or twice was how I came far too quickly just when she was just beginning to get right into it......great promise, possible potential but a proper let down when it came down to it. 😢😢 

Nothing worse for a young lads fragile ego lol.

I was incredibly lucky for many, many reasons when a good friends mother who was in her late 30s, supercool as she'd smoke dope, take drugs and seemingly on the same wavelehgth as us lads, started trying it on with me - in front of her son ffs not that it bothered him at all. Seemed so sophisticated and worldly back then but just seems kind of weird looking back but she was Mrs Robertson to Ben in The Graduate but most critically of all had the patience and wish to help me not only cope with but gain full control over my consistent issue with premature ejaculation. lol.

At the end of the day though size is but one aspect of all this and the one that has the least to do with the man/person you are. Your size is a physical attribute that's a matter of chance just like eye and hair colour or the size of your feet.

Nobody makes a big deal about how important the colour of your eyes are for obvious reasons yet cock size still seems to matter to the majority of men even today despite being any real benefit or advantage linked to size.

I know that I've had gfs who have complained that during the most passionate moments while having sex I would go too deep and hurt them internally which killed the whole thing instantly.

When I was lucky enough to get some anal sex which wasn't by any means very likely once again the issue of going too deep put a quick end to proceedings when it occurred.

Likewise,women who weren't constantly looking to give you a blow job, who thought women don't all live to suck cock lol, were even less keen if it was above average in size. lol.

When they say size doesn't matter it probably seems a bit trite when it comes from someone who has the fortune to be born with a 'big dick' much like when a millionaire tells a poor man that money won't make you happy but off all things to get either arrogant or feel inferior over dick size has to be one of the most pointless.

Ultimately the only person that it matters at all to is yourself, you can get all embarrassed or full of it over it because of the size of it but the only person it actually matters to is yourself.

So much of it is down to typical male posturing exacerbated by the bullshit that the porn industry continually highlights as important or real.

The only real life advantage someone with a 9 inch cock truly has over the man with a 4.5 inch cock is the extra confidence they may have down to nothing more than idea that bigger is better.

From what I've learnt over the years from actual experience with real women as opposed to watching porn or hearing porn stars opinions is that size really isn't important at all and counterintuitively when it does become a factor then big almost always seems a bad thing not a preference.

Big has no bearing at all on how good the man is at using it which is the most important thing that matters unless you're 100% selfish in which case size is the by far least of your problems lol.

Even in terms of overall aesthetics I bet there's countless dicks much smaller than my own that are far more appealing to see and make mine look kind of ugly lol.

Maybe it's a sign of maturity or being content in one's skin but I find I can see photos of another man's equipment appreciate a good looking cock without freaking out incase it means I'm turning gay or even curious. I can openly admit it too because if someone thinks it makes me a closet whatever I'm afraid to say I couldn't give a f**k either way lol.

I think I've already written about a situation in the past where my best friend and I would have a threesome with this hot, horny girl who loved cock but not as much as she loved two or more at once. As weird an awkward as it felt the first time or two I quickly overcame all feelings of weirdness and found that I loved seeing him naked and hard aswell as being highly aroused and naked before him. I can't deny the thrill seeing his enflamed cock sliding in and out of her not watching his balls bounce while he pumped it into her.

What's more the occasional contact between us when we were taking her anally and vaginally at once was exciting as hell. I could never imagine getting naked with some guy in any other circumstances nor wishing to indulge in anything remotely gay but in that particular situation certain things could happen and were possible without any gay/bi overtones being necessary.

We definitely explored a true 3 way more than once aswell as the typical two men fucking one women. Plenty of spit roasting and the usual sexual actions involving a mmf 3some but I did get to truly experience and appreciate another man's body and cock to the full for the one and only time in my life.

Yet during that entire experience which was a regular thing for over 9 months (she measured us both for a giggle one night and discovered once more I was a shade over 8 while he was barely 6 inches and it made not the slightest difference at all, in fact I would say his was better looking overall and as I hinted to above things went beyond just us two fucking her so I would say from my own limited experience I'm genuinely glad he was a 6 incher and not a full 8 for ffs let alone more..... I'll not elaborate more on that yet, if ever or unless I get enough requests,it's not something I'm at all ashamed or embarrassed over I will say that lol).

During that whole business she never once expressed a preference for mine or his and had she it would have been purely a matter of what either of us did for her as she regularly would say the one thing above all she couldn't care less about simply because it made absolutely no difference at all was size and who was bigger.

That was straight from a girl who by anyone's opinion was completely cock crazy and had had more cocks than both Kentucky Fried Chicken and Bernard Mathews put together so I can't imagine anyone more qualified or with greater real life knowledge to state if size matters in anyway at all lol.

Oddly I found that post very reassuring; you probably did better work than my counsellor right there. While I sat and read it listening to Bloc Party I thought of my own equipment. I used to live in hope of it growing bigger, but I'm at the age now where I think I'm done growing in all areas physically. I'm of average height (leaning towards short) and the short also applies to my penis. I have always been told that size doesn't matter, but it is below average and while not short-short is pretty underwhelming. Not much girth is admittedly the larger issue but at 4.5 inches I don't have much to show. Combined with being a bit chubby and having a somewhat chipmunk-like face I constantly see myself as the ugliest human alive, even though I'm not. I don't get attention from women (even though most of my friends are girls funnily enough) and that has broken down my confidence even more - two girls even blocked me immediately after seeing me, which I found pretty ironic because objectively they're roughly in the same league as me.

There are plenty of women who I probably could have been with. One girl was friends with me for years but I was too late - she had already come out as a lesbian, although luckily I don't think I'm the reason for that. A girl I know now is amazing. I get along with them really well, she's very pretty (exactly my type) and has had similar problems to me in life. Well, not the short penis issue but you know what I mean. She too is a lesbian, although another friend of mine (also a girl) has suggested that if I try hard enough I can turn my friend bi, but that is not realistic as much as I'd like it to be true, because both of us agreed that if she was straight we'd date each other. When god sends good ones he seemingly always sends them as lesbians to me. I'm not sure if I will get with anyone over the next few years. I'm social and people do like me but luck has never been on my side (white privilege has never helped me!) and I want to be desired. Oddly when people say girls will accept me for who I am it hurts a little, because it feels like they're lowering their standards to be with me and don't want me as much as they settle for me. I want people to want to be with me, because of how I look mainly, as shallow as it sounds. When I say that what I really mean is that I want there to be at least some sexual attraction between us; I don't want it to be an afterthought.

That said, I'm not even sure if I want to have sex. Sure, I watch porn and masturbate a lot, but the thought of sex freaks me out. Less so the actual act of doing it, but things like them seeing my body and the inevitable disappointment. I've tried to lose weight but I concluded most of my problems lie in my face, which I can't mask, unlike my dad bod which a nice black shirt covers up nicely (won't work during sex though). On another forum I talked about these issues and got some feedback. I'm not sure whether to be offended or inspired, so your opinion would be nice since you seem like the oracle of the forum.

This person told me that women choose people based on a cost/benefit comparison, and that I have multiple downsides and only one upside. The one upside being wealth, but he noted that as I try not to show it, it doesn't really count because nobody will really no. Back when this conversation occurred I was much less social than I am now but at that point it was one of the downsides, but over time I have become more confident overall. His analysis of me felt like an insult but I'm still unsure how to feel about it in the big picture. Perhaps he's right. My counsellor disagrees and was pretty shocked when I showed her the screenshots. In fact in another session she gave me an award for the worst self opinion she'd ever come across, and while I am slightly nicer about myself (at that point I described myself as being doomed to failure and never to be liked or loved, and that I might as well die because that would end the suffering earlier) deep inside I still believe all those things. I just need to be proven wrong. I need someone to love me. I need to have some success in acting or presenting (my dream in life is to be a presenter; I'd love to present Top Gear, I'm a Celebrity or the revived Big Brother). And in an ideal world I'd lose my dad bod and actually be someone desirable.

Maybe in another timeline...

It's crazy what listening to Bloc Party can do... I listened to the entirety of Silent Alarm writing this, and right now I'm listening to the final song* just wondering how life is going to go for me, and what would have happened if I had tried to lose weight when I was a bit younger. Maybe I'd have a girlfriend! Ironically, the final song, Compliments, is about living a meaningless life and effectively waiting to die. Here's the song link if you're interested.

For one thing you can't be the ugliest human alive, well maybe joint ugliest because believe me I'm certainly no oil painting... some days ago a few of us at work were chatting about how the Scottish Parliament had passed a bill to make it significantly easier for a man to legally change his sex to female without any medical or psychological evidence to back up a diagnosis of gender dysmorphia and I suggested that I'd definitely make a hideous woman as I barely look like a typical man lol.

Confidence and self belief are the biggest attraction for the opposite sex than anything else. Confidence, self belief and a good sense of humour will take you further than looks ever will.

Of course, that sounds so simple, oh confidence that easy eh. I wish, confidence is one of those weird things if you are thinking about it or aware of it at all then you're most likely lacking it. When you have it you never give it a second thought.

I was the absolute outsider growing up,constantly made to remember 'you' re not one of us' which was really damn hard for some time but after a while it gave me the freedom to do my own thing, to be myself and not follow the crowd....if I had tried to follow or fit in I'd still be stamped on and told I didn't fit so being myself wasn't difficult as there was nothing to lose.

Still and all it didn't really seem to do me any good. I wasn't particularly gifted at talking freely and easily with anyone but particularly girls, definitely wasn't anything to look at nor one of those people that light up the room the minute they walk in.

No, I was barely noticed or made much impression until I reached around 19 or 20. Certainly, nothing changed as far as I could tell but the fact I was part of a large group of people that all hung out, right at the centre of it but apparently my own person got me some interest from a number of girls which did great things for my confidence.

A fling with an older woman, a good friends mother of all things lol, may well have done a great deal to help. To give me a little belief in myself that I needed so badly.

As for that old question of dick size, it can do a good number on ruining your self belief if you dwell on it which is pointless because it won't get you any interest at all. She's only going to find out after she has shown interest and things have moved on from there.

I think unfortunately it sounds like you have been analysing it all far too much, it's no coincidence that people describe others as their own worst enemy. Our own minds can destroy our own confidence and sense of worth more thoroughly and ruthlessly than the meanest or cruelest out there and ironically or not it can be incredibly hard to learn to accept and like yourself once you've become so used to ripping yourself apart 🙁

When you talk about other guys on other forums going on about girls using some cost/benefit equation to choose partners or that you're only positive attribute is wealth then you really shouldn't take them seriously because what can or do they know about either your actual circumstances or the personality of any women you meet. Whenever you hear some guy pontificating about what women really want they're blowing their own trumpet and preening their 'ladies man' feathers for all those losers that need help. Utter bullshit.

The truth is women are actually people too with their own individual wants and needs,their particular beliefs and doubts just like the rest of us.

I think the best thing you could do is pursue your ambitions and goals i.e getting into acting or presenting. If you put your energy into what matters to you it should get easier to stop from doing yourself down especially once you start making progress or improving your chances.

Top Gear, wow !!! Is that the Jeremy Clarkson version or the more tame version ? Anyone who has the balls and ability to act or present should be able to 'play' the role as the confident star in the making, at least enough to meet and get interest from women which would then feed that self belief more becoming a self fulfilling prophecy 🙂

Certainly making somewhat of an impact as a good and rapidly improving guitarist did help my own confidence. Admittedly, I was so obsessed with the entire world of playing guitar believing simultaneously I was going to be the next Jimi Hendrix or I'd never get any further than millions of other wannabes but it was something that I was very driven over and not only gave me something beyond my rather bumbling, shy character at the time I could project and believe in plus in a room full of people smoking dope etc whenever I played the guitar people listened which felt real good.

Of course, I went back to normal as soon as the guitar was put down as it makes a wonderful thing to hide behind when you're lacking a little personal sparkle lol.

As a personal opinion on how back to front the world has become when you mention 'white privilege' as being no help I can't help thinking wtf ? The last thing anyone needing a little self belief and some self worth really should be worrying about is all this bullshit nonsense like white privilege or critical race theory. Promoting such utter tripe does nobody white, black or anything else any favours whatsoever.

When people tell me I'm inherently racist whether I think I am or not in virtue of being white then I'm sorry but I take offence at that. This idea that all white people are the beneficiaries of white privilege and therefore cannot see their own inherent racism is quite simply saying I say your racist and because I am black and you are white I am the only one that has the understanding and knowledge to know the truth. It's no diffferent than someone telling you who you are by virtue of they're right and you're wrong, end of story.

Anyone who cannot see the problems with such a flawed argument and spurious logic needs to sit down and think about it for a moment. One group only has the right to tell thd other what they think and what they truly are by virtue of their perceived experience of society and life.

I would just ask this, if someone has grown up within a community that wholly believes they are constantly being discriminated against, their elders, uncles, aunts, family friends all talk about the white man being racist then what is the likelyhood that they're going to see racism everywhere they look.

White privilege and a victim culture, is one more a fact than the other. Talking about the UK as that's where I'm from and have grown up the notion that it's always been institutionally racist and still is may have been true notionally in some isolated places but as a whole, a nation I don't buy that for one second. The black lives matter thing has created a monster where almost everything is seen as having a racist angle where there was never one there before.

Ok no one can deny there are some historical grievances still harboured due to people's misunderstanding of history but trying to make white people feel ashamed and guilty for being white is pretty sad but in this 'woke' present day of ours many, many white kids are feeling ashamed and like they belong to some bigotted, supremacist culture which is perpetuating this whole idea of the evil white man.

Neither history or the truth is ever that cut and dried nor is it over such an open ended idea as the events of whole races and populations over centuries passed.

As a lifelong student of history there is so much that is problematic with this very broad and not very well understood movement to rewrite history and the condemnation of figures from the past who they don't like or agree with. Historical people shouldn't be judged by todays standards but by the beliefs of their time nor should they be held up and criticised out of context.

The thing is when the tide of history turns like in inevitably does, and it always does. Will the social justice and woke champions accept that their icons that they hold up as so great fall foul of future generations. Will they take it with serenity if their younger ancestors feel they have to pull down their statues and hail their heroes as being evil.

Thinking they have the right and that history is with them when they demand statues, historical figures and long revered notions of the past are pulled down, called racist or bigotted and held up as symbols of white supremacy because they don't fit in with their woke, identity politics agenda demonstrates a massive lack of understanding about not just what happened but the entire subject of history itself, it's relevance, it's purpose and why it's so critical that history isn't subject to the whims of the social media generation but professional academics and historians.

Sorry, that turned into a whole off topic rant that is something I've come to feel very strongly about as someone genuinely not remotely racist nor ever have been. To be told I am simply because of my 'race' or lived experience of society is one of the few ideas I find truly insulting so true a rant it may be but I would say without the slightest hesitation to anyone forget all this white privilege crap that gets thrown around these days. Or white guilt, honestly how can you be held responsible for something that happened centuries before you were born and on the other side of the planet. It's nearly as ridiculous as being held responsible for the extinction of Neanderthals.

Bloc Party ?  I've heard of them I'm sure but know nothing about them. AC/DC, Led Zeppelin, Hendrix, Gary Moore and the like is where I'm at lol

Again, you do the work of my counsellor - you might enjoy learning to be one actually, you certainly have a lot of wisdom. Plus it's my own backup career. And yes, I did mean the Clarkson era of Top Gear. I did enjoy the 'new Top Gear' particularly when Matt LeBlanc was lead host but after him and Rory Reid left I lost interest. The show is just a bit boring now. Same story as Ghosts funnily enough, I used to love it but I just lost interest after the first series.

I'm interested in that fling with an older woman which you have mentioned - what actually happened? It sounds quite enjoyable actually. 🤣 

As for Bloc Party, they came along at roughly the same time as Coldplay and Radiohead, and was quite similar to old Coldplay and Radiohead of the time, but had a fall in quality far larger than either band. Their third album, Intimacy, was an utter crap est, although did grace my ears with Ion Square which is one of my favourite songs (and the most listened to song for me this year according to Spotify). Not many songs have as much momentum as that one does by the end...

Coldplay and Radiohead stayed at a relatively high level and remained relevant compared to Bloc Party. The latter did have some hits, like Flux, which is also a great song, but other than that I doubt many people could name a Bloc Party song. Radiohead and Coldplay seemed to have beaten the test of time, still producing great music, even if it's not to everyone's taste. Coldplay's Music Of The Spheres Volume 1 from last year was panned by critics but I actually really enjoyed its variety. Radiohead sadly haven't released anything for quite a while. LCD Soundsystem, another similar band, very recently released a new single which I really like.

Posted by: @electrostar

Again, you do the work of my counsellor - you might enjoy learning to be one actually, you certainly have a lot of wisdom. Plus it's my own backup career. And yes, I did mean the Clarkson era of Top Gear. I did enjoy the 'new Top Gear' particularly when Matt LeBlanc was lead host but after him and Rory Reid left I lost interest. The show is just a bit boring now. Same story as Ghosts funnily enough, I used to love it but I just lost interest after the first series.

I'm interested in that fling with an older woman which you have mentioned - what actually happened? It sounds quite enjoyable actually. 🤣 

 

Haha,

I've never considered the thought of doing any kind of counselling. I'm not wholly sure the industry would accept my particular individual approach to it.lol.

Perhaps,I could practice as a kind of therapeutic masturbation tutor. That oddly has an appeal as I imagine there would be some real degree of fulfillment in helping someone to overcome their issues and problems when it comes to helping themselves.

Whether that requires a bit of real time demonstrating or applying some hands on practical lessons I have no idea.

What a weird way to earn a living but I couldn't definitely think of far worse ways lol.

😁😁😘

I've just been looking through old posts on this forum, what would a therapeutic masturbation tutor even be?

Posted by: @electrostar

I've just been looking through old posts on this forum, what would a therapeutic masturbation tutor even be?

One who teaches masturbation ???😅